Am Not Coping

[Zoe7]

@Faith-and-Hope this is just me feeling vindictive but how would MIL go if you 'dumped' all the washing on her to iron - your in the sh*t anyway so you may as well get something out of it!

That probably is not helpful at all - just a thought coming completely from frustration on your behalf 

You are right - MIL is not your concern - you cannot change her behaviours but you know deep down the man you married is still in there somewhere and that is what you are holding on to. That takes incredible resilience, courage and belief. You are amazing Hon 

[Faith-and-Hope]

@utopia I have organised a cleaner to come in and do the ironing. That way it is done, not my problem, and her payment will come through the household finances, not my housekeeping budget ..... ✅

I just have to take the time to problem-solve each issue as it comes up to try to diffuse it, and not let it get to me ......

If his former self could see how he is behaving now, he would be horrified. He didn't mean this to happen, but that doesn't take away the consequences.

Support services have kept reminding me that he is still in there somewhere .....

[Zoe7]

@Former-Member Sorry I disappeared so quickly this morning - I was not in a good way at all and couldn't think or 'talk' anymore. I was becoming way too overwhelmed by everything and so totally lost again. Thankyou for taking the time though - it does help sometimes to talk it through - even if it is just circling around the edges! 

[Former-Member]

💜🌹🤗xx @Faith-and-Hope

[Former-Member]

Oh @Faith-and-Hope you poor thing, try to do what you need to do it sounds like you can't please everyone at the moment so just work on what you need right now if you can try

[Former-Member]

Don't be sorry that is okay, glad you got to chat. Sometimes that is best you can do in what ever way you can manage, you did so well too, go @Zoe7 !

[Zoe7]

@Former-Member 

[Shaz51]

Oh @Faith-and-Hope my friend

that is soo hard xx, we are here for you my friend , talk away

Mr shaz always corrects what i do and the other day , he said  it was good living at mum`s because she did everything !!!!!!!!

Hello @Former-Member, @Zoe7, @Former-Member, @utopia 

[Former-Member]

OMG @Shaz51 I can't believe he said that out loud! How frustrating p.s. hello 🙂

[Zoe7]

@Shaz51 my sister