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13 Feb 2015 04:27 PM
13 Feb 2015 04:27 PM
Hi Peace.
Yes my parents definelty were dissconnected as a family when my brother and I were young. My father is adopted and to him love is just a fiction which means nothing to him and my mother just went along with the ride I feel. And to now just have it come up still means nothing to them, to them it is in the past and all I am told to do is move on by doctors and family.
Thanks for your story.
13 Feb 2015 06:51 PM
13 Feb 2015 06:51 PM
Hey @Troubled_One
You know this is such a hideous thing to say to anyone, it makes me really angry. "Move on" is so dismissive and avoidant of facing the issues. What the psychs should be asking is: what happened to you? Then listening and helping you work through that. IMHO they need a kick up the bum if their best is "move on"!
End of rant. Deep breath.
Hope for helpful help does endure..
Kind regards,
Kristin
13 Feb 2015 07:54 PM - edited 13 Feb 2015 07:55 PM
13 Feb 2015 07:54 PM - edited 13 Feb 2015 07:55 PM
Thanks kristin for understanding, its such a hopeless thing to say is move on when the damage is done. I am trying to move on but at the same time you do need for people to understand and your family and doctors should understand most but I guess it is so hard to try and fix things that people have done that they know they shouldnt have.
09 Jul 2015 11:04 PM
09 Jul 2015 11:04 PM
Dear @Troubled_One
Lee,
How are you? I have thought about you but have had a few things happening.
I had no idea. Isnt @kristin wonderful. She must be really busy at the moment but her and...@peace left kind caring practical messages.
Those grr..... doctors you have seen.
lee, please ke on writing what you do during the day,
We are here for you. I have also seen the support you have given others like @Appleblossom you certainly have the experience........
Have you heard from your brother ?
10 Jul 2015 03:56 PM
10 Jul 2015 03:56 PM
Hey Anne, I like the cool new funky writing maybe I can do that one day lol.
I am ok just battling on trying to get away from these panic attacks its like I do not know what is real anymore, I had so much hope on my brother and my family and now it seems like its all just a mith, a fake situation I was creating in my mind, I know it is still real but damn, I do not know what to do. Nothing much works out and I just battle on some how. I love that people like you and others encourage me on, I see where I can achieve things but those things are so far out of reach.
Yeah kristin must be busy, she has a real heart that person.
With my brother he is so busy, I think in his mind he is still a little oblivious to problems like depression and panic attacks, but anyway, he is off in his world. He told me if I contact him it does not make him get back to me any quicker or slower, I often wonder does my mother love him more than me? Maybe not but sometimes I wonder... ?
11 Jul 2015 04:25 PM
11 Jul 2015 04:25 PM
Hey @PeppiPatty Anne, How are you today?
I was reading over my last message in this thread and thought I would see what your up to?
I saw my doctor the other day, and we are trying to get me off some of the medication I am on. Taking it slow and seeing what happens. I am eating better and working out a lil as well.
Hope your doing ok.
Lee.
12 Jul 2015 05:00 PM
12 Jul 2015 05:00 PM
@PeppiPatty Anne I spoke to my mother today and spoke about my brother, I am really feeling that I do need to talk to him let him I know I am there and I love him. I reallly have not said it to him this whole time and him hear it I realised this today talking to my mother.
And I think this is what is affect me and my fathers relationship and our whole family.
I think this is why you might be mentioning him?
I am seeing my psychologist on wednesday and going to talk to him about it. I will let you know what happens.
Its all good if your busy.
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